I’ve always wanted to write about this topic but never have out of fear I would just BLAB for 238399292832 pages and wouldn’t be concise enough BUT here goes anyway…..it’s bothering me……
People diagnosed with mental health conditions ARE NOT DOING IT FOR ATTENTION.
Even if you see/hear someone, and I have to admit even after everything I myself have been through and all the various people I’ve met in hospitals, psychology groups, recovery college, sometimes you do find yourself questioning people. HOWEVER instead of thinking about how “attention seeking” they are or “fake” it is; shouldn’t we be asking “why would someone do that?” because honestly anyone that desperate for attention or help or whatever reason we believe people may LIE about being afflicted with such a thing surely isn’t well anyway?!
For the people who are genuine, who battle everyday, take medication with awful side affects, attend appointments, are in hospital, face judgement I GOT YOU. When afflicted please believe having the condition is not the only battle at all.
1. You have to recognise and admit you may have something not quite 100%.
2. Then you have to actually GET the help you need. Whether it be talking therapies, medication, community or hospital care and BELIEVE me unless really severe, my friend, you have to FIGHT almost as hard as you fight the condition for this help. It’s almost impossible. Mostly due to lack of funding but a larger proportion because of people’s ignorance and belief that people’s depression and/or anxiety can be easily cured with a “you just need to be more positive” lecture.
3. Once help is received you have to then do the necessary steps to maintain wellbeing. Now this is HARD. You are expected to talk about what your feeling. Sorry what??
You have to sit with a stranger and tell them and be completely honest about how you’re feeling. Really and truly you’re only going to get the help you need if you are completely honest, and this is almost impossible out of fear of repercussion. Do you know how many parents suffer in silence due to the fear of their parenting being judged? Or people who are afraid of loosing their job, friends or family? Again we return to people’s pure dumb ass IGNORANCE.
4. Now you have to live your life. Keep your head above water and maintain as much of a linear recovery as possible for yourself. This is nothing short of a war HOWEVER is 100% totally possible. It really is. Please whoever is reading this know despite what I’ve already said it is totally possible.
Once help is acquired there is no time for relaxing. You can’t take a magic pill or talk to a magician and have everything fixed by the end of the week feeling great again. Unfortunately we are talking about chemical imbalances in the brain, YES a psychical problem, that has to be addressed with sometimes quite aggressive medication that takes a while to work and often working through some really traumatic thoughts that can resurface original symptoms in the first place anyway.
It is a war with your own head. Constantly questioning feelings, emotions, thoughts and actions. Is this me? Is this true? Or is this my mental health? Talking yourself around and out of various thoughts and unhelpful coping behaviours. Getting out of bed every morning and living a normal life while facing constant exhaustion from the battle that is MENTAL HEALTH.
It’s so hard to maintain working relationships due to the constant guilt that the negativity you are feeling is going to affect people. The guilt is the worst, normally we then start to punish ourselves as well with the dreaded “they deserve better, why me, I’m such a failure, bad friend, wife, husband, parent…”
We have jobs, which please, can we just stop a second and celebrate this. People who have mental health conditions and maintain an income here’s your salute! Hardly ANY employers understand mental health. Would someone with diabetes get questioned for sick days? Probably not. Would someone with Bi Polar or Anxiety? Almost guaranteed.
So next time you catch yourself judging, which we all have to admit we do, please stop and think! If you have found out someone is suffering that means someone has spoken out. That takes courage and a fuck tonne of guts. Respect that shit. There is NO amount of words, social media lives, I could do or write which could explain or show 100% clearly what people go through. So unless going through it, working for or caring for someone with mental health, I think it’s bloody hard to explain or get people to understand and see just how hard it is.
RESPECT and bloody WELL DONE to everyone fighting. Nothing short of warriors. If ever in doubt with someone you love or care for and you don’t get it. Just look it up. It’s simple now, we have Google and YouTube. Use them. Be educated not judgemental!